Hi I'm new here really don't know we're to start my husband is 60 on and off for over a year he's had stomach problems I had been telling him to go to the doctors he did after me nagging him however I don't think he told them true symptoms Xmas day he took really bad the day after boxing day I said right that's enough got him into hospital they did test after test they said he had inflammation of the stomach and bowel sent him home with a low residue diet 3 days after that something burst in he's tummy rushed him back in to find he has stage 4 stomach cancer and lymph nodes he is still in hospital basically sat waiting for a treatment plan on Friday he is everybody rock we have been together 23 years with 4 grown up kids we are completely devastated we don't know what to expect can people through this ? X
Hi and welcome to the community though so sorry to hear about your husband.
Many people find the time between diagnosis and getting a treatment plan in place just about the worst of all. We think all the time that the cancer is growing super quickly now we know it is there and if can feel that time just passes so slowly like the world has gone in to slow motion. Dealing with the rest of the family and keeping them up to speed can be a real overload too and it can be helpful if someone can take that role on. When my dad was ill that was definitely something my eldest sister took on.
Well done for coming here though, our happy band understands how difficult things can be and have tips especially on coping with the emotional load on us carers - it you look at Looking after someone with cancer you will see just how common your emotions are along with the often guilt of "but I am not the one with the cancer". It might help to share that link with your kids too - they may well be grown up but it is still their dad and as you say "everybody's rock".
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Steve
Thankyou Steve I'm really sorry you have been through at alot you are unbelievable strong 
Hi Lorraine,
Oh I have been knocked down more often than I might care to admit but have come to learn where to get the support I need and also to accept it and when I need it. A couple of good song come to mind - Lean on Me by Bill Withers and He ain't heavy he's my brother.
One thing I could not listen to without tears welling up after my father died was Amazing Grace - my dad was Scots and very proud of his heritage, nowadays I just think tears are the love overflowing from my eyes.
Hope you got some news today - I know Janice can get very frustrated in hospital and sometimes the thing that ends up hardest of all it getting out of hospital.
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Steve
Hi Steve thankyou for your postive words we need to see the oncologist in a week or so but the nurse said it looks like we will be offered chemotherapy but will be discussed in a week he is very tired got out of hospital 2 days ago had 2 blood transfusions it's wiped him out he isn't in any pain so that's a good thing he's had quite a bit to eat tday so I'm happy about that 
thanks again im so happy that theres people like yourself for support.
