Hi everyone
happy December!
i wrote here at the end of May having lost my best friend maggie from cancer she passed away May the 22nd. Worst time of my life and I still struggle without her.
now I’ve found out from my uncle that my aunt in law who’s like my aunt to me , has stomach cancer and I’m waiting on my uncle to tell me more outcomes of results and what their going to do treatments etc
i just can’t believe this year how it’s been it’s just constant sadnesx
At Xmas I’m going to Devon to my parents and i don’t know what to say to my dad as it’s his sister in law this aunt of mine.My Dad is in his 70s as is my mum but I know Dad is going through a grumpy negative patch in his life and no matter what I say to him to reassure him he doesn’t listen really and this was before we found out. I’m just feeling so gloomy and im a cheerful person usually and joke around have a laugh etc but my dad doesn’t like it us being cheerful so this news about my Aunty is just going to make my dad more grumpy
Thanks for reading and taking time to listen everyone and have a lovely day xx
Hi , sorry to hear about your aunt-in-law - it does sometimes just seem things just pile in on top of each other. I recognize too the comment about people having a grumpy patch and of course at this time of year, well as least normally, everyone can seem really happy and it can feel very difficult.
The unknown is challenging to us all, I struggled at first with my wife's diagnosis but eventually came to realise nobody really knows what is around the corner and the best we can do is make the most of today.
You say your dad is going through a grumpy negative patch - hopefully that means we will work his way through it - probably will help when some of the unknowns are sorted, if however he would like to talk to someone I hope he is aware people are there waiting to listen; sometimes it can be difficult to talk to our nearest and dearest though - I know I found Maggies and the online comminuty a real godsend in all this.
<<hugs>>
Steve
