Partner has cancer and feeling lost

Hi I am new to this journey as well my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 lingo cancer in October this year, we had a total of 15 minutes together in the hospital to be told the diagnosis and he has been in hospital since.   I haven’t been able to see him and although they say he can have che they cannot get the fluid around the lung to stop to enable this to start.  Like you I feel utterly lost not knowing what will happen next and not being able to see him is leaving me feeling like this s a rehearsal for what it will be like if he dies .  I have great friends who are helping me get through the days, but having this lifeline also helps me to feel less alone.  Please try to reach out to your friends even just to g for a walk or a cuppa it will help you and them.  Just wish it would be possible to meet in person that’s what we all need.

I know how you are feeling my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer in October he has been in hospital since we got the diagnosis so haven’t been able to see him just talk on the phone.  He had a drain fitted but they cannot get the fluid to stop and this means he cannot get the chemotherapy .  We seem to be in limbo and being at home without him is very lonely and scared to think my retirement is going to be a very different one to what my husband and I planned. Although my friends and family are amazing it would be so amazing to speak to someone face to face that truly understands what it’s like but for now I do feel less alone with the help f this forum, reaching out with a virtual enormous hug to everyone 

I’m in the same position with my partner, he starts another round of chemo soon. We don’t live together but I see him 3 times a week and each time I see him he seems to have lost more weight as he’s really struggling with food. I thought I was strong enough to get through this without needing to speaking to anyone but I’m starting g to struggle. He’s been in so much pain lately and I feel so helpless. 

Hi,

I am sorry, I have only just seen this post, my husband was diagnosed with oesophageal cancer in May 2020, he has liver, lung and lymph mets, and is currently undergoing chemotherapy.

I hope you found the support from all the great guys here and just wanted to let you know, you are in my thoughts.

Lowe'