Hi everyone,
I'm new to this forum, but not new to my Dad's cancer. He's had lymphoma for about 9 years now and had two rounds of treatment. Yesterday he had a phone call saying that his treatment he's on at the moment seems to have stopped working and he's having an appointment in 2 weeks time to discuss the next step. He did not want to tell me, but told my mum last night who then passed on the news to me today whilst crying. The worst part is not knowing if it has started spreading yet and how bad the situation really is (does he have months left? Is this the beginning of the end?). Not knowing what's going to happen and if I'm going to lose my Dad soon is killing me. He's not aware that I know so I'm just carrying on as normal at home and being as strong as I can for him, but I actually really don't know how to cope with this. I can't get the bad news out of my head and any moment I'm on my own I burst into tears. Does anyone have any tips on coping, please?
Hi , sorry to hear about your dad and the impact it is having on your family. Lymphoma is not in my experience set since my wife's cancer is very different but I understand there are a range of treatments so one having stopped working may well not be the end of the road - having said that there are plenty of other things we could worry about at the moment too.
One thing that helped me was to learn some mindfulness techniques and focus very much of making the most of ever day. Certainly i found early on that I was painting myself a black future that was much worse than actually happened. Add to the mix that the world would throw problems we never expected and ouch.
The time of uncertainty is always difficult and the sense of not being open can be difficult.
<<hugs>>
Steve
