Hi everybody, I am new to this group. My ex-husband has been diagnosed with terminal cancer with just weeks to live. We split up 26 years ago but have maintained contact despite both remarrying because we have a son who we are both extremely close to who is now 28 years old and is the main support to his Dad during this difficult time. I am struggling with the emotions of losing somebody who has been in my life for 40 years and the complications of undealt-with grief for the loss of our marriage many years ago, and grief for my son who is having to deal with this awful situation and is going to lose his Dad. I don't really know what help anybody can give but just writing this down is helpful. Thank you for reading and l my heart goes out to everybody who finds themselves on this website.
Hi and a warm welcome to the community, though sorry to hear about your ex-husband and the impact the diagnosis has on both your son and you.
It is often amazing how simply sharing our story can make us somehow feel better and sharing on here will we hope not only help you but others in the same position who never got over the hurdle of making that first post - so thank you on their behalf too.
Your position is less uncommon than some might think but it does sound great that you have managed to keep in contact for your son, I am sure he respects both of you for that and now he has a really tough experience but it sounds like he is rising to the challenge - a real tribute to you both.
It might help you to look at Your feelings when someone has cancer and whenever you need post on here. Hopefully your son is accessing some support too because no matter how strong we feel it can be next to impossible to deliver the best on our own.
<<hugs>>
Steve
