my grandad who is my best friend has been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer, he’s lost 2 stone since the beginning of September. It’s all happened so quickly, the treatment options are limited due to the strain of cancer he has and it feels like it’s taking forever. In the mean time we are watching him fade away and we know it’s a ticking clock and each day is another day lost. I’m totally aware of the current situation and he’s not the only one with cancer but when it’s your family you want everything to have happened yesterday. Just as we were coming to terms with the news of my grandads’ diagnosis. We were then hit with the bomb shell that my uncle has bowel and liver cancer, having lost my other uncle last year to the same bowel and liver cancer I know that there might not be much hope. He’s liver cancer has spread all over his liver and they are going to try and treat him with chemo but we know once the liver gets it then there’s not much hope.
im trying to be positive with all this going on in my life but I’m finding it so hard, I feel like I can’t cry in front of my grandparents because they are trying to be so strong and it breaks my grandad to see me cry. as if this year hasn’t given everybody enough grief, my family has been hit with this devastating news that we are going to lose my grandad and then two weeks later the news we are also going to lose my uncle. I’m really hoping no-one is in the same position as my family is right now with two family members dying of cancer but in a way I just want to know I’m not alone and that there are other people who can appreciate the way I am feeling amongst all of this. where do I turn and what can I do to help me through what’s no doubt going to be the worst year of my life and I’m sure next year and all the years to come will be as well.
Hi ,
Sorry to read about some many things coming to your family at the same time. So often it seems that one thing will just pile on top of another and it can leave us feeling isolated and alone while the world is going on without us.
At the moment it can be extra hard too. You did a great job coming here as there will be lots of people with shared experience and that can help to make us feel less alone. There is a lot of information in our Emotional effects of caring
For me perhaps the best decision I made was when I first reached out - in my case to the Maggie's at the hospital; I later did a living with less stress course that helped me concentrate on the here and now and appreciate everything I have, perhaps before that I was living in something of a state of pre-grief mourning the future that I felt had been robbed from us and making days harder than they needed to be.
<<hugs>>
Steve
