Feeling in the dark please shed some light

FormerMember
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My mother has 'incurable ' secondary cancer in the breast and the main blood artery possible primary from the bowel 

Having radiotherapy to ease symptoms. 

She doesn't talk about it so feel very in the dark she keeps saying she is fine and will be back to work in no time! Please can someone tell me the difference between incurable and terminal? Or is the same thing and she is protecting my feelings? I can only assume with cancer in so many areas with no hope of a cure that my time with her is now precious? I am so confused and helpless,  her doctors wont speak with me as she is of sound mind so they will not speak to me unless I have her permission 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi there, 

    In answer to your question, I think incurable and terminal mean the same thing. My mum was diagnosed again in 2018 with incurable but treatable cancer. Sadly she is now extremely poorly. It sounds like your mum is either in denial about her situation or trying to protect you. Either way, I would spend time with her, do things you both enjoy, chat, sit in silence together.