Hi I’m new to here. My partner has had his op for mouth cancer. Had his lower jaw removed used the bone from his leg. I’ve been doing so well until he has had his operation. Now it seems to have hit me like a ton of bricks. I feel so helpless seeing him in so much pain. It seems as if my friends don’t know what to say to me. Finding it hard to communicate with my partner which he finds hard. Since he was diagnosed everything went so fast. Now I’m at home fearing there might be a lockdown then I won’t get to see him. I just don’t know how to cope with all this. Like I said I thought I was doing fine until now. I seem selfish in this situation but I’m not at all. All I do is think about my partner and how he must be feeling. All I do is cry for him. He was worried about been disfigured that dosnt matter to me I love him for who he is. I’ve read what I can about mouth cancer etc. I just feel so lost now
Hi and welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to read that your partner has been diagnosed with mouth cancer but glad to read that he's recovering well from his operation.
Discovering that someone you love has cancer is a very emotional time so it's not surprising that you feel lost. You might like to have a look at this information on the emotional effects of caring and also this on looking after someone with cancer.
It's also understandable that you're finding it difficult to talk to your partner about cancer and Macmillan has produced this information on what to say to someone with cancer which might help you to get started.
When you have a minute, it would be really useful if you could pop something about your partner's journey so far into your profile as it really helps others when answering or looking for someone with a similar diagnosis. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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