Hi I am wondering if anyone has some insight on this situation. My boyfriend of 10 years was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer two years ago. Remarkably, he is doing ok but having scans every 3 months. I went thru the whole nightmare with him. Chemo radiation Whiple surgery more chemo and radiation. MD Anderson. His Dr says it Will kill him question is when. Just found out he was cheating and he broke up with me and is seeing this new girlfriend. He loves me he says. I was there for him and thought it would, if anything, bring us closer?! Boy was I wrong! I am Devastated! I can’t understand, and wondering if the cancer is a contributing factor. I can’t ask him because #1 not sure if he even knows what he is doing.
Hi and welcome to the online community
I'm very sorry to read that your boyfriend has recently broken up with you and it's understandable that you're devastated and want to know if his cancer has contributed. Of course, the only person who will know the answer to that is your boyfriend but having cancer does make you re-evaluate your life. As you say, for some people it brings them closer together as they want to spend as much time as possible together, but sadly that doesn't happen for everyone. Some people realise that they don't want the life they currently have and having cancer makes them focus on what they do want.
You might find looking through this information from Macmillan on cancer and relationships is helpful. If you think there's a chance you could get back together again then maybe he would consider speaking to a counsellor from somewhere like Relate.
Sending a virtual ((hug))
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