We're two days into processing the Terminal diagnosis of my 48-year-old brother. His birthday is on Monday, and my family and I want to do something for him.
I have no idea where to start. If we ask him, he's the sort of bloke to say he doesn't want any fuss.
I'm aware this seems like a bizarre question, but I wondered if anyone could share their experiences for still celebrating a birthday, despite such a tough situation.
For context, he is being cared for by my parents at their home and not able to do much more than move from bed to a chair in the lounge.
Thank you for any ideas.
Phil
I’m really sorry to hear about your brother. Such a tough time for you and your parents too.
would a photo album be an idea, along with as much of your company you can give him? He could put all his favourite memories in there, and talk to you about his memories of those times. In the future, it could be his gift to you. Something the two of you did together, and a very personal book of shared memories.
If your brother is anything like mine, you can josh with him and tell him to stop being a miserable selfish b***er, and do this thing for you.
x
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