Hello all,
my dear mum has stage 4 bowel cancer and has deteriorated rapidly in the past few weeks. There is no further treatment unfortunately and we have been told it will probably be only a few weeks left.
She is currently at home, and in the past week she can barely walk, barely eating or drinking, feels sick and in pain etc...we have put things in place at home now like a downstairs bed, commode etc and have a daily carer that pops in.
She lives alone and I get there as much as I possibly can but have young children and there isn’t much other family.
when is the right time for her to go to the hospice??
the hospice ladies who visited said not just yet but I’m not sure why when she is so very poorly and is spending nights alone.
im worried sick and not sure if I should be pushing for the hospice (which she doesn’t currently want) or is there more carer services I should be pushing for??
I wish I could stay by her side 24/7 but I physically can’t do it and it’s breaking my heart.
Hi
I'm very sorry to read that your mum has been told that there is no further treatment she can have for her bowel cancer. This must be an incredibly hard time for the whole family and it's no wonder you're worried sick.
Could I suggest that you join the Supporting someone with incurable cancer forum group and post your questions there as well, as it's a safe and supportive place to share your emotions about the prospect of losing your mum as well as talk about practical issues like hospice care.
If you'd like to do this then just click on the link I've created and then choose 'click to join' on the page that opens. You can then copy and paste your question from here after selecting '+New' or '+',depending on the device you're using.
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