Sister,s Diagnosis

FormerMember over 4 years ago

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Hi yesterday i found out my sister has breast cancer , understandably she doesn,t want lots of people ringing her at the moment .i feel guilty for feeling the need to seek support myself but i don,t know what i can do . My partner has a brain injury following a brain tumour almost 6 years ago and doesn,t fully understand things so i don,t feel able to discuss how i feel with her . My sister was wonderful when my partner was ill and i want to hep and support her now but i feel helpless . its het me hard that my older sister who has always been so strong is really scared . our parents died when we were young and now my sister is seriously ill . please don,t judge me for this , i just need somewhere i can say it . as i,m scared although i know modern treatments are good

FormerMember over 4 years ago

Hey ash,

Welcome to the space and sorry you have had to find it I think the intro goes

Dont feel guilty for needing support and no one is judging you. If your sister was your rock before and your parents arent with you I can imagine that's a scary lonely place. Do you have any other people you can talk to?

I talk to my girlfriend who lost her dad to lung cancer and my mum is a palliative care nurse so I'm. Blessed to have these people for me. I'm going to ring the Macmillan phone line too and get try to sort some counselling maybe someone to talk to like that could help you. Since you have so much on your plate at the moment.

Your sister doesn't want to talk about it a lot, I get that with my brother, it's wierd, the elephant in the room, I ask him.how he is, he tells me the usual, but we don't get much further than that. That's how he wants to play it then that's his decision. It may change.

Believe me there are so many people who care for you even if you dont know them.

And you're right, modern medicine is better than ever, try to stay positive. Even in the darkness.

Thinking of you

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