Feeling helpless

Hi Redhead46 welcome to the forum and I am so very sorry to hear about how things are for you right now that sounds pretty awful all round.

Your poor mum must be reeling, first from the news that she has stage 4 lung cancer and then leaving her husband. Two major life changes and I'm not sure from your post what the time-frame is for both events but it sounds like they have maybe come close together. 

Maybe she just needs some time and some headspace to get her head around what has happened to her. I would be inclined to give her some time and carry on as best you can caring for her and wait until she is ready to talk. If you are concerned after say a few days then maybe it would be worth having a chat with your mum's GP and tell them what has been happening.

Sending some hugs your way meantime. xxxxxx 

Thank you for the lovely reply . The diagnosis caused her to leave as she wanted to live her lige without being stress with his attitude . But i think she has given up she in hospital now as she confused and not eating . Thank you again