My Dad was diagnosed with inoperable oesophageal cancer in October 2019 with a prognosis of weeks or months to live. He’s fought bravely and despite not being able to swallow since January (he has a PEG for fluids, nutrition and medication) he’s survived lockdown. But our hospice nurse has confirmed what we knew - he’s in the later phases of his battle.
I’m fortunate to live 5min walk from my parents and I see him (socially distanced) most days.I’m trying my absolute hardest to be grateful for these borrowed months (even though we’ve not been able to cuddle him since March). But every time I leave their house I have this overwhelming sadness and I’m starting to balance the two feelings.
Hi
sorry to hear about your dad, it is hard enough at the best of times coping with the emotions and the not being able to cuddle bit makes things even more difficult. I am glad he is getting support in a hospice as that can give you more time and peace to treat him as your dad rather than as a patient.
Feelings at a time like this are difficult, so I can really understand where you talk about balancing feelings.
<<hugs>>
Steve
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