How do we cope?

FormerMember over 5 years ago

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Hello! I’m new to this group and feeling a little overwhelmed at the minute. My mum is having tests for lung cancer after docs finding fluid in her lungs. We don’t know yet for definite but 99% been told to expect it. She is having the camera next week so will know along then along with treatment, although we do know it can’t be operated on. I just feel in limbo and because of this awful Covid situation I don’t know what to do to support her. I want to be strong but I’m also struggling to keep my emotions in check. Also my mum holds her feelings in so I really don’t know how this is affecting her.

LoobyLou49 over 5 years ago

Hi and a very warm welcome to Family and Friends, although I'm sorry to read about your mum. Did the specialist say why your mum's cancer can't be operated on? It seems quite a sweeping diagnosis without having seen the suspected tumour. I understand you wanting to be strong but feeling emotional. I'm an emotional person too and it isn't easy managing without occasionally hiding away to shed a few tears; it's the way I cope. If I bottled it all up I'd fall to pieces. Like your mum, my husband is an emotional Fort Knox and it's such a different approach. Is your mum able to do Face Time or similar while she's in hospital so you could support her that way? Hang in there, you will find things get easier as you get your head round it; it takes a while to get the whole cancer thing in some semblance of order in your mind, but you will find a way through it.

Love and hugs,

LoobyLou
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