Hello... we have just discovered my mum has st.4 gallbladder cancer. Apart from being severely jaundiced and itchy she’s absolutely fine and recovering really well from a hip replacement. Yet we’ve been told she only has months. I’m completely devastated and I don’t understand how she can appear so well. (But I am thankful) I really just don’t know what I’m going to do without her. I’m so angry we’re being robbed of years with her. She’s only in her mid 70s. I also read people can live up to 5 years at this stage... yet we’ve been told months. Can anyone please help me make sense of what’s going on.
Hi and a warm welcome to Family and Friends. I'm sorry to hear about your mum, I lost my mum when she was young so I know the heartache well. A prognosis isn't always accurate but I'm not trained and wouldn't know how to answer your question on length of life other than to say that, as she is well, make the most of what time you have, and if it's longer than you thought that has to be good. Making new memories is what we call it here. I made sure to tell my dad regularly that I loved him and will be eternally grateful for the last long hug we shared. Had I not known that his time was short, I might not have had that memory. It's wonderful that she 'appears so well' at the moment but it takes a while to get your head round such a diagnosis and being told you don't have long is such a shock and anger is a perfectly normal reaction. I'm sure you will have others replying soon, meantime, I'm thinking of you.
Love and hugs,
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