Feeling lost and alone

FormerMember over 5 years ago

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Hi I'm very new to this, my dad was diagnosed a few months ago and the prognosis is good but I'm a university student and I'm very much struggling being away from the rest of my family. My mum is his main carer but she been struggling with mental health issues for some time now and I know she is finding the situation very hard. I always used to lean on my family for support but now I feel like I can't because they don't have the energy to support me. I am currently living with my flatmate and while we are close friends, she told me that she is finding it hard to be around me because of everything I'm going through and she feels that I shouldn't be her responsibility. I'm feeling very alone and like I can't do anything right, does anyone have any suggestions for being more self sufficient?

LoobyLou49 over 5 years ago

Hi and a very warm welcome to our Online Community, although I'm sorry to hear about how things are now. The plain fact is that, as our parents get older, and especially where ill health both mental and physical are concerned, the roles gradually become reversed (I was very young when my mum had cancer). That's never an easy thing to go through, but believe me, you will toughen up. It takes something of a mind shift but it is possible to have conversations that are not easy while remembering how things used to be and taking comfort from the past. Shifting away from the emotional side of it when you're with others takes a shift too. I'm not sure I can put it into words, but it's rather like closing a door or a curtain and shutting out the 'other stuff' partly by thinking of good times with other people. It takes a bit of practise but give it a go and see if it makes a difference.

Love and hugs,

LoobyLou
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