Not sure if this is the right place or if I should be taking this up with another charity/company but the 2 I believe are linked:
Dad was diagnosed in 2008 with terminal prostrate cancer which has spread to kidneys and bones (to the neck). The treatment is via various tablets, morphine pills and hormone injections with regular hospital checks. Dad in himself is fine, although as a previously strong man (top of the family guy) he has kinda of rolled over and not given in but perhaps become dependent on others (especially mum) more than he should. I know that sounds cold, but it’s not, not really. I appreciate that he can’t do lots of things that he used to and there was times that we had to tell him to slow down, but now it’s almost like he’s slowed right down and depends on others to do stuff for him when we know he can or should do them. He depends on mum a lot and it stresses her out, and my sister-in-law and I, plus other family members have noticed that for the last year mum has become more forgetful and will ask the same question in 1 day, 5 or 6 times.
Should we be worried for her mental health, forgetfulness. Mum is dads rock so without her he would fall drastically downward.
hoping I haven’t come across and cold, it’s really not meant that way, but guess you have to be ‘in’ the immediate family to understand what’s going on.
ideas/comments welcomed from a loving daughter to both parents.
thanks x
Hi and welcome to the community though sorry to hear about what your family is going through.
First and foremost - you do not come across as being cold at all, just another person suffering from what we often refer to as the tsunami of a cancer diagnosis.
Forgetfulness can often be a symptom of stress and only really you and your mum can answer if that is a problem or not, it might help to look through I'm looking after someone with cancer as there are a number of tips in there including where there might be more support if that is needed,
Have your dad and mum had a needs assessment/careers assessment from their local authority? This can be helpful to make sure they both get the help they need.
<<hugs>>
Steve
