My mum was diagnosed with a rare and aggressive cancer in February. Despite attempting a round of chemo and immunotherapy, she is now in the final stages of life with only a few weeks, at the very most, to live.
I’m finding it very hard to get in touch with my emotions. People around me are crying and are visibly sad but I feel mainly numb. Obviously I am devastated that I’m about to lose my mum but I can’t help but be in practical mode. I feel the need to support others rather than look after myself.
People are telling that there is no right way to feel but I’m worried I’m missing something. When she dies, am I going to feel that I didn’t do or feel enough while she was here?
Has anyone else felt this way?
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