A need to talk out loud x

So sorry to hear about your mum and totally get the ‘i have to stay strong’ feelings. I too am broken inside but have to carry on and be strong. If i break, then who will my son turn to when he needs someone to talk to and express his fears and absolute fear in what the future holds. My biggest fear is how he will handle this if the news is not good next week. My daughter-in-law and son are his whole world. Your mum is also yours. She will be worried about you and any siblings. Her fear is worrying about you all and how you will cope. Strength is family, family is strength. X

Hi 

So sorry to read about your mum - a cancer diagnosis often comes like a bolt out of the blue while something else is being looked into :-/

Although it is early days and your head is probably filled with 'what if's' as bad as this may sound there are some very effective treatments now - with the spread this is probably classed as stage 4 which is incurable, but this by no means untreatable and treatment buys time, which can be years.

It can be a rocky road going through treatment but your mum is young enough to hopefully be offered a do'able treatment regime and be able to get through it.

Please don't feel the need to be strong, it is counter productive. Letting the tears flow and having family hugs is far better than bottling all those emotions up, only to find a breaking point later at a time when you will need the energy and time to help your mum when her treatment starts.

Emotions can be varied from one family member to another and there is a long list too, ranging from anger, fear, not knowing what to say or do etc. Even deciding simple things like does mum want to talk about this or make it the elephant in the room ?  Some people just don't want to know the details, others want to know everything... It is a minefield to figure out the best way forward.

Take all this one week at a time, one day at a time if it helps else you can take in too much and get info overload as your mum has a lot going on. Concentrate on the next step is the best way forward.

Once she gets a treatment plan put in place whatever it is there is an Ovarian Group you can join to ask any questions that come into your head (nearly always after you leave the hospital meetings)  It is a very active and friendly group and several of the members there are also have ovarian with secondaries.

If you will be helping mum in a Caring Role there is also a very active Carers Group here you could look up.

Hope this is of some help for now, good luck with the meeting Tuesday.

Take care, G n' J

thankyou for your support. I genuinely hope your daughter in law can recover from this xxx

Thankyou I can take a lot from that and I'll be sure to check the ovarian group if I need too. X