How do I relax a bit and stop stressing!

Hi Akela, 

It's the question we all have to face isn't it? I think everyone has to find their way of dealing with this bloody disease. For me personally it's the gym that's been my stress reliever since this horrible journey started. I've never been a good sleeper, and since my mum's cancer returned, I've found I wake up at 5am, no matter what time I get to sleep. After countless mornings staring at the ceiling and trying not to wake the house up, I've taken up the weird habit of heading off to the gym for an hour. I can then take out my frustration on various bits of gym equipment, then go home, shower and have a good breakfast, all before having to get the kids up for school. It has completely resolved the "about to burst" feeling, plus it's obviously improving my health as well. 

Until I fell into this habit I was in the same boat, can't go on, can't deal with the constant strain, and was considering seeing my GP for some kind of meds, but feel like I am more in control (at least of myself anyway). Obviously it's not the solution for everybody, but they do reckon that exercise of any kind is good for stress. Your husband says that the cancer is all about him, in some respects it is, but the hospital staff should be fully aware that the carer also needs care! I think I've only had one meltdown (when mum got her incurable diagnosis and she was being examined in another room) in hospital, and we had our Macmillan nurse there at the time, and she was brilliant, just got me out of the way into a side room and let me unload it all, she just listened and waited for me to blow, then talked me back down to earth. That's the sort of care you not only need from your hospital, but the sort of care that you deserve!!!

All the best

C

Thank you C! I am just about to get free gym membership from work! So I do intend to use it! 
I called to the hospice today to see what was on offer and the lead nurse there was fantastic!!! I feel better from the chat with her and now have some direction! Sadly I don’t think the hospital are going to be much help! But the hospice system will once I get him referred, hopefully Monday by his GP! X