It has been a while since my mum passed and I posted I was unsure of going to her funeral as there was a terrible family conflict going on with my brothers and still is. I cannot remember if I posted my decision or not to those who responded. In the end I decided to not go and say goodbye to my mum in a private way at the Chapel of Rest. I felt this was the best way for me to say my goodbyes and seemed so personal to me. I have no regrets not going to the service and felt it was the right way forward for me. It had been said I would regret it but I have not - not an action for everyone of course. There is no right or wrong in these matters.
5 months on from my mothers passing my own husband passed unexpectedly whilst away celebrating our birthdays. This was a terrible shock for me as he was fit as a fiddle and only 72. I do feel totally numb as I was grieving for my mum but now have to go through it again for my dear husband which is really hard. It is only 2 months since his service and I am trying to make a life without him but of course there are many, many tears.
Thank you for reading this post.
Hi , sorry to read this, I know how shocking an unexpected death can be and even more so when life has been difficult too.
Glad you managed to make your decision about your mum too, you are so right that the decision you are happy with is the right one.
Thank you for sharing this and hope you find some happiness that will allow you to look back at this time and think how strong you are and think of the good times you shared.
<<hugs>>
Steve
