my mother

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mum's not been feeling to good for some time now, she caught pnumonia about 4 months back, and also had sepsis, which they caught really early thank God, well since mum's been home from hospital,she's not gained any weight and has just been feeling really lousy, I just put it down to, well she's had pnumonia and that and it's gunna take some time before she's back to normal, but something just wasn't right, so I got mum back to doctors where they did a blood test and a few other things, I new something wasn't right when doctor rang literally a few days later saying that they had found something with the blood test and that she would have to go down to bath ruh for some more tests, well I took mum down today and after a few hours of what ever tests they did they said she has cancer, nothing really prepares you,  I'm just numb at the moment, wondering why nothing was picked up when she was last in hospital, I'm just worrying on how am I going to cope you no, i new something wasn't right and you try to prepare yourself ,but hearing this news today has just blown my mind, mum has to have another test I think it's to see what stage it's at but I'm not sure, I've so many questions I wanted to ask and needed answered but I didn't really question anyone today, does that make me a bad son, I just think it's the shock of hearing that word, you never really think it's going to happen to your family, 

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    Hi stephey, sorry to hear what's happened with your mum, and a welcome to the club that no one wants to join.

    It can indeed be a very big shock when the "c" word is first mentioned. I'm not sure what tests have already been done, as it looks from your post that it's shown up in blood markers. If that's right then the next steps should be CT or MRI scans to find out what the problem is in more detail. After that will be a meeting with oncology, who are the people who can answer your questions. You shouldn't feel bad about not asking questions, it's hard to even think straight in situations like that and it definitely doesn't make you a bad son!

    My mum is currently midway through chemo, and we meet with oncology regularly, and whenever we go we always write down whatever questions we want to ask before hand, and take a notebook to the meeting to write down the answers. If they aren't written down the answers just turn into a blur afterwards, and you can never recall what was said exactly. 

    Also, have the hospital put your mum in touch with a specialist nurse or Macmillan nurse? I've always found they are awesome when it comes to answering random questions, and getting answers from the docs. 

    This is a good place to have a good rant and rave, and get everything off your chest, and we're all in the same boat on here, so it can help.

    All the best, 

    C