It's nice to meet you, although I'm sorry its under these circumstances.
First off, I just want to say how much I truly understand what you're going through right now. My Mum who's more like my best friend has just finished her gruelling chemo, and I know how helpless it can make you feel, when all you want to do is take away the pain and symptoms of treatment, but you cant.
The most you can do to help him, isn't a physical thing, it's doing what you're already doing by being there for him emotionally. I think before someone close to you goes through chemo, you dont understand how it effects the emotions and so many other things, and unfortunately as you and I both know, loving someone and being around them 24/7 while actually going through treatment is heartbreaking.
But just be there for him. Be there for when he gets upset, finds things a little too much, or just feels angry about things. Your support and love, and being there for him is something so invaluable and something that he will appreciate so much. Other than keeping an eye on his temperature, to make sure he isn't getting an infection, and helping him with things he will find difficult with his energy wiped out, then honestly, doing what You're already doing and being there for him is the best thing you can do for him.
As for the hiccups, maybe you could mention that to his medical team, they may be able to explain why hes getting them so badly and may even have some tips to help with them.
We are always here for you on this community, as carers need somewhere to talk and vent too, as you dont always feel you can say what you're feeling to the loved one going through this. But you'll always have someone here, and remember your support and love is probably keeping your husband strong and making things just that little easier for him.
Lots of love, and let us know how your husband gets on with his treatment, I hope nothing but the best for the both of you.
Hi and a second warm welcome to the online community there is not a lot I can add to the welcome and advice that you have received from except maybe to add that you are very welcome to join us in the Carers only forum group a really safe place to visit and speak with others in the same situation as yourself as it's intended only for carers and you'll be made very welcome by the other members and like everyone else who joins the Mac family they are all very friendly and supportive of each other.
You are also very welcome to post your question on hiccups in our Ask a Nurse page and one of our specialist nurses will try and give you an answer usually within 2 days.
If you're into a bit of reading Macmillans have a booklet called Talking to someone who has cancer (this used to be called Lost for Words) and covers quite a lot and maybe of interest and help to you. It can be downloaded for free as a pdf file or as an ebook.
If you click on the green text above this will open up the ordering page, you'll need to confirm your email address and your Macmillan password to open up your account and order the book.
As mentioned to you now that you found us you are no longer alone in this journey you have an army of friends all waiting to give you help, support and advice at any time you need it and please remember if you do need to rant and rave and let off steam at anytime this is the place to do and you never have to apologise for doing so as we all understand how you are feeling.
Anytime you need to talk to someone come on here there's always someone about to hear you even in the wee sma' hours of the morning.
Perhaps if you have time you could revisit your homepage (by clicking on your name at the top) and look for Edit my profile and if you click on this it will take you to the space where you can tell us as much or as little about yourself as you want but it really does help others to know about your journey when they respond to you (see also below the green text "How to update your profile). Remember to click save when you've finished otherwise all your words will be lost!
Ian
By clicking on any of the green text above will open up new pages for you
there is honestly no need to thank me, any way I can help I'm here for you! I know how hard it is to stay positive, just keep thinking of the end goal, and what the chemo will achieve, that's all I seemed to focus on! But it's a good goal, and it makes all the chemo worth it.
And definitely, also so it's not so much a nuisance for your husband! I bet it's so annoying, I cant stand having hiccups for 10 minutes nevermind all night, poor thing.
Remember we are always here, and lots of love to you,
