Dad - days to short weeks

Hi WeLoveCats9d365a 

Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.

I am Steve one of the community champions and my experience of cancer is via my wife who has Leiomyosarcoma.

When Janice was diagnosed she was clear that she did not want a prognosis and I really struggled with that, we were fortunate though and chemotherapy rendered her cancer stable and so we have been living with cancer for many years now.

Perhaps the nearest I can get to your position is with my mother, we did not even know she had cancer because that was only diagnosed at the autopsy and in her case if was something else that caused her to die.

I can relate to the idea of wanting to know what will happen but rationally we know that is really difficult to do, it took me going through a living with less stress course to really appreciate that there were somethings I really had not control over and just needed to go with the flow.  With work at times this has meant being prepared for someone to take over if I had suddenly to disapear for a little while - actually quite sensible when we consider being too reliant on one person can be bad for business if they get taken ill.

<<hugs>>

Steve

Hello!

Firstly im so sorry to hear of your dad's diagnosis. I will be spending light to him, you and the family, its a difficult time. 

My experience is of my mums cancer and I am also in my 20s. She was diagnosed in April and after 4 months she was given the all clear. Fast forward 3ish weeks and she starts getting fevers again. We took her into hospital, and we're told after a week that the cancer was back and spread rapidly, and that we'd likely lose her. She passed away 5 days later. Next week it'll be 1 month without her, and every day is different. I have felt very confused that everything happened so quickly, and im very new on the path of grief, and honestly I haven't reached the acceptance stage yet. 

You are so brave and strong to be walking this path alongside your dad, and I am sure he appreciates your care and is very proud. 

Reach out as much as possible. Grief begins long before your loved one passes when cancer is involved, and looks different for everyone. Be gentle on yourself during this time. You are being robbed and cancer is a cruel and unfair disease. It's okay to feel all the emotions and there's no right or wrong way to get through this. But you will, we all will.