I really don't get some people. Fri 5th I lost my dad.. I was good and kept my mother in law up to date. She had told hubby when we know funeral date to let her know as she wants to be there.
So I did and said we are sorting numbers to know what chapel to book. Her reply was she is away in till the day before so can't come down the day before (she lives in Nottingham us in Southampton) and what time is it. I resay that we are sorting numbers to be able to book it.
Hubby spoke to her today and politely said the priorities were my family being there, which she said she understood and that she feels closer to my mum (my mum wouldn't agree) and that if it was my mums funeral she would change her plans. The worst thing is she knows my mum also has terminal cancer and that we suspect we will loss her this year as well.
Just goes to show that she just wanted to be involved but doesn't care about supporting us or paying her respects to my dad, who even up to the last Monday of his life he always asked how she was...
Sorry need to vent and don't want to upset hubby with how much it has upset me...
Hello . Families can be strange at times. Bereavement and funerals can raise the emotions and sometimes doesn't always bring out the best in people. You are doing your best with the arrangements and it is hard to try and please everybody. Do what you can to accommodate people, but don't let things like this upset you. It is difficult enough losing your dad. Give yourself some time to grieve. This is a good place to let out your feelings without upsetting anybody. People here understand. Really sorry to hear about your mum. Sending you best wishes.
