Feelings

Welcome to the online community, the place that no-one wants to visit but circumstances have brought you us and I am so pleased that you've reached out to us, we offer help, support and advice to all who need it.

It's always a pity when family relations are strained and do not speak to each other maybe this could be the right time for you and dad to start to rebuild your relationship and give each other support whilst you come to terms with his diagnosis. 

I can suggest that you join our Supporting someone with incurable cancer forum group where you will meet the very friendly members who will totally understand exactly what you are feeling at the moment and will offer you help, support and advice as they all have experience of what you are going through at the moment.

You can join the above group by simply clicking on the green text above which will take you to the groups homepage where if you click on join this group then on start a new discussion you can start to ask questions.

Please do take this opportunity to reconcile yourself to your dad and offer to be there for him not matter what .you could also volunteer to go with him to appointments to hold his hand and this way you will get a greater insight to the treatment your father can expect to receive and you will get to know what the future holds.

Crying is good it releases a lot of your inward feelings but please try and put on a brave face when you are with your dad and allow yourselves to be comforted by each other.

Be your daddies little girl again.

Ian

Thank you for your kind words and directing me to a new group. I live the opposite end of the country to my dad and altho things are strained we do talk we jus have so many wasted years we will never get back. I want to be there for him and believe me I have cried so much since finding out that im not sure my head can take any more. I feel so numb and am jus thankful that this site is available x