My mums cancer

Hi and welcome to the online community

I'm very sorry to hear that your mum has been diagnosed with Hodgkins lymphoma and that you're feeling overwhelmed right now. It's a very natural feeling when you love someone very much and you're trying to help them in every way that you can.

Unfortunately the helpline closes at 8pm but if you'd like to chat to someone now then could I suggest giving the Samaritans a call on 116 123. You can speak to someone there confidentially about how you feel at anytime night or day. They won't judge you but will listen to what you have to say.

Our helpline reopens at 8am and you could then speak to one of the specialist cancer nurses. The number is 0808 808 0000 and it's free to call.

Sending a supportive (((hug)))

Thankyou for replying..i will call MacMillan in the Morning.. Can't bring myself to call the Samaritans.. Thanks for the hug.. Could do with a real one.. 

Hi . Just to add. There is always someone here if you want to let things out. People who understand. Best wishes.

I just wanted to add a virtual hug and to say that I’ve rung the Samaritans a few times and they’ve really been great. Sometimes it’s hard to wait till the morning. Sending my best wishes

Hi and welcome to the online community and sorry to hear how you are feeling this evening. I just wanted you to know that someone was on hand to read your message.

It's always a pity when you are left with the responsibility of looking after a parent when another relative is better placed to do the caring, I take it you have discussed with your brother about sharing the caring and tried to work something out and explained to him that you can't  do it all on your own.

Looking after a sick parent, keeping your own home in order whilst carrying on with a full time job is very draining and you need to look after yourself otherwise it's you who will become ill.

I'm sorry that our telephone support was closed when you tried to phone but they are back on the telephones from 8 am tomorrow morning if you can wait until then but as you said you needed to speak to someone tonight I would suggest a call to the Samaritans on 

116 123

Might help you this evening

The people there are very friendly and are available to speak to you or should I say listen to you speak about your problems you are having with coping with everything and the problems you are having with your brother. They are not there to tell you what to do but to help you find a way round your problems.

It's not nothing if it is disturbing you and if something is running round in your head it's better to try and get it into perspective and I'm sure if you call the Samaritans they won't think it's nothing and by speaking to one of the team will help you and they maybe able to suggest something you can do.

Please do make the call tonight to 116 123 or if not can you call our support line first thing in the morning on 0808 808 000 (lines open 8 am) and speak to one of our advisers.

All calls to the Samaritans and to the Macmillan telephone support team are made in the strictest confidence, no personal details will be asked for.

I hope that this has been of help and you do make a call if not tonight then tomorrow morning at the latest.

Ian

Thanks Ian for the reply. I shall ring at 8am. Don't know why but it feels more appropriate to call MacMillan.. I appreciate the time you've taken with this message. 

Karen                                       

Hi Karen

Thanks for coming back to me.

How are you feeling this morning, did you manage to get a good night's sleep.

Although the support team start to take calls at 8 am can I suggest that you leave your phone call until 9 am as the specialist teams are available from then onwards until about 5/6pm.

But please do make the call you won't regret it, they really are very friendly and supportive and will let you talk to them for as long as you need to, you'll note I've said let you talk and that's exactly what happens they let you talk, please do mention that you've been on the online community and we've referred you to them.

We in the online community are always available to listen to you whether it be to ask a question, have a rant and rave or just let off steam we are all here for you to give you the support we can, you are not alone and normally there is someone about until the late hours to pick up any conversation.

You already have the support of three online community champions Latchbrook, Rily and myself Bodach (Ian) and you can call on us at anytime you are feeling down and need to talk.

When you've spoken to telephone support team on 0808 808 0000 and they've given you advice please come back to us and let us know how you got on.

Remember the online community is your safe place to get things off your chest you don't have to bottle things up now you have us to fall back on for morale support..

Hope your call goes well and things become clearer with the breaking of a new day.

Ian

Edited by Bodach 10th April at 14.40

You're all marvellous  Didn't get any sleep really but that's the norm lately. I shall ring this afternoon after work . School run and a hard day's graft gardening.. (lucky I love my work).. Once again thanks. I will post back later .