Brief background, my dad has alcohol dementia, was still drinking till a week ago and in November last year was diagnosed with oesophagus cancer and that it was in the lymph nodes. Dad can never remember this.
January this year mum was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer, which the hospital missed 2 years ago and now nothing can be done.
Saturday 9th Feb mum came back into hospital having been home for 4 days. She had low blood pressure and broke her wrist. By this point thinga had been going on constantly since November and I broke.
Mum has been in hospital since then, due to be discharged from hospital tomorrow to a care package of 4 visits a day. Last Wednesday dad was brought in thinking it was pneumonia, but it wasn't the cancer had spread Monday the ward dad was on calls my brother to ask if OK to discharge dad home to mum cause they couldn't get hold of her .... That is because she is still in hospital.
Monday evening dad was moved to the same ward as mum. I was very surprised to see him lying in bed with oxygen tubes in. Tuesday afternoon we get a call to say to get to the hospital
Today the decision has been made to stop antibiotics that he was on for an infection as they are clearly not working and just give him as much pain relief /relaxing meds as possible.
I shouldn't say this but I wish they could do more to make the process speed up. Listening to his breathing via a mask with all the secrum building up is horrible.and I can't face many more days of it
On the plus side mum is due to be sent home tomorrow and she still wants to, going to make it tougher as means my brother and I will need to split up and we have pretty much been together since Tuesday evening..
