Sorry but I'm having a bad day and I just need to let it out. Â I woke up feeling like I've had no sleep and really down. Â Mum's been bad this week - a lot of pain and, I think, sliding into depression - so I'm in overdrive on worrying about her. Â My sister is with her today so I don't need to go round to see mum although I probably will drop round later. Â I thought I would throw myself into cleaning the house so make myself busy and then I'd start to feel better. Â My fatal mistake was asking my 18 year old daughter to help. Â She had a major strop. Â I tried to keep calm as I realise that she is worrying about my mum too but it was hard. Â I tried to talk to her but she just got worse and worse so I gave up. Â Then my husband made sarcastic comments about it all - again he is worrying and his mum is also not well - so I am still trying to keep a lid on it. Â But I feel even worse now. Â I'm now sitting on the sofa in my pyjama's watching old episodes of Grey's Anatomy without the will to do anything else. Â I just keep crying and feel so very very sad.Â
Jenny,
I am so sorry you are feeling poorly, you have gone through a lot the last few months, p'raps your body is just saying,'enough' I hope you feel better soon. It is time for someone else to take the helm. I hope things work out for you.
Take care, Anneteresa
Jenny, did you get a text from your mum? All this worry is so horrible.
Maisiemae, bless you, thank you for asking. Mum's ok ish. She keeps thinking that we're not going to turn up to see her so she gets upset until one of us arrives. I keep telling her that we wouldn't just not turn up but she still gets upset. She says that most of the carers are OK. Well they're all OK but some can be a bit rushed and abrupt. She's more awake now in the mornings and more chatty but she's hardly eating and drinking. And there's nothing I can do. I'm scared all the time. But you know what it's like, we all know what it's like unfortunately. She still has her sense of humour though. She was pulling faces at my daughter at the weekend behind mine and my sister's backs because we were trying to get her to eat something. They were both laughing. It was nice to hear.
How are you doing? I've been thinking about you a lot.
Elenium
No text from mum. No phone calls from hospital so maybe she's asleep. Â I nodded off for 3 hours just woken abruptly for no reason...guess am used to being woken...
Back to sleep now.
Fingers crossed for tomorrow.Â
Your mum in the right place Elenium.
Jx
I've got my fingers crossed for you too Jenny. Hope you managed to get some more sleep.
Hope everyone is ok, as they can be.
Hugs to all. X
Elenium
Jenny,Â
I am so sorry, you start to wonder what next don't you.
Get well, that's the first thing, your body and mind are exhausted. Let your sister shoulder the responsibility, I'm sure your mum will text when she feels up to it.Â
You aren't doing anything wrong, your mum is more susceptible to infection and she needs to be in hospital.
Wishing you a better day today and praying that your mum and dad are okay.
Thinking of you all.
Big hug and love x
Take a deep breath ... then on with the day.
When I got to the home this morning mum was asleep with a bowl of porridge on her lap. Â Her hand was in it! Â When I asked the carer when breakfast had been brought round it had been an hour and half before. Â Told the career that I wasn't very happy that no one had checked on her. Â She apologised, but not good enough!
Elenium
Good you're keeping an eye Elenium.
Dad now ill sis said he wet himself this is new for him. Doc is due.. I spoke to mum they've just told her no more treatment and she's on her own after this news poor mum. It's her 3rd pneumonia in a month. Â She said she has diahorrea. They're going to give her a scan. Â No transfusion yet.
My sister wants to visit after doc has been. She's asking a friend to dad sit this evening so she can.Â
I'm helpless useless here...my right lung still hurts left one improved. .
Hate everything.Â
Sorry not a good day.
Been burning candle for days...to focus on it
Jx
Sister may not go visit. She feels ill. Â Poor Mum.
Jx
Poor all of you.
X
Take a deep breath ... then on with the day.
Oh Jenny, it's so horrible. How are you, mum and dad now?
Mum said she doesn't want to get out of bed anymore.
Elenium
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