Having a bad day

Shooting from hip. Elenium, i feel it would benefit you to go, how dare he control your life and your sisters!? Head high walk in and if you fume, so be it. His actions have a direct impact on you. I rather hope he squirms in his own arrogance. If im out of form sorry.  Silence and kindness is the greatest punishment. May i punch him for you?

 Although Anglia trains have just allowed me to change a non changeable train ticket which is good.

Down side of own business and employing people is i can grant myself time off work but all my work still needs to be done. But will relook at own compassionate leave policy. X mum changing Will today to exclude grabbing people from manipulating her husband after she has gone, got gp to confirm she is if of sound mind. She watched me go through a probate battle for 4 years and the contender was overruled.  Probate battles are horrendous and costly. We have been very open and mum is crystal clear what she wants and how to close a window of opportunity to undesirables. Complicated stuff.  Tenants in common and joint tenants. Make sure your own wills say what you really mean with that clause if you own property jointly. Ugly subject but helps further down the line. Mum still thinking ahead. She is a wise wonderful woman and i love her more each day and i didnt think it possible.

Jenny, great tip thankyou re double help commode from hospice. She has carers 3 times a day but from 7pm to 950am nobody unless im there or marie curie only 3 very valuable nights a week. Mum is determined to die at home so we (Me!) are doing whatever possible but mum is a tough cookie albeit with failing body. She forgets words for a while then finds them.

Love to our group and further afield xxx

Ps i know mum would find peace and solace befriending our mums/alan but she isnt internet savvy x

Fuse blew mum poo AND man at door at same time

I answered door in the gloom wearing blue gloves with following smell and looking cross...he didn't linger..

Bleeding hell. ..

Schexy ladee Jenny

Ha ha ha....not quite the Christmas advert in this house!

Well I did go out.  My sister and brother in law were already there.  I said hello to him, had a bit of a chat with my sister and then went and sat with my friend elsewhere.  He must have realised because I would normally sit with my sister, but I just couldn't do it.  She came over at the end of the night and we chatted about mum and the carers and stuff.  He walked off.  You may punch him anytime you like maisiemae. Thank you for the offer.I had a very pleasant evening, although I nearly fell asleep at one point.  The armchairs there are just too comfortable.  :-)

Mum had a fall this morning. She's ok, nothing broken and she's playing it down.  She tripped when she got out of bed. She didn't didn't tell me when I rang her this morning. She said she forgot - no big deal...

She was a bit brighter when I popped in tonight.  I actually think she's enjoying having the carers round.  New faces and diffferent things to talk about.  They helped mum have a proper wash this morning and helped her put body lotion on.  She said it made her feel much better.

Oh well, off to bed now.  Hope everyone is ok and hugs to you all.  X

Am up clearing up poo. Mum had non stop diahorea took both my sister and I to clear all up six towels and one set of pyjamas will never be the same again... chemo....

Immodium taken.  Dad moaning as dialysis day..

It's a madhouse.

All I do is talk about poo on here.  

Good you went out Elenium..  angry though he makes you.

Know what you mean about the carers.  They can chat and they're not family members so when it comes to hygiene it's actually better more lighthearted and guilt free ..they don't really want us to do that for them though we have to unless they can time all commode use to carers times (if only).

Lots of new faces. .mum giggles with them.

I'm now wide awake and smell of bleach.

Jx

Elenium, congrats on dignified outing and comfy chairs, the battle lines are laid and your integrity intact. Offer stands on Batman stylee biffs and pows. Was it those words? Jenny Demestos (other brands available) you conjour clear pictures. Agree that carers bring normality to the necessities. Ive just found out that Marie Curie do a befriending scheme and mums signing up, 3 hours weekly which mum may enjoy... Have a look on their website. We cldnt cope without the night sits. Also learnt about continuous care, going to check if we can have that for mummy. Tonight im at home but missing looking around mums door to check she is breathing. Her face is is so different now x

Oh yes I do that too. Quiet peer around the door...see chest rise...then back to my room.  Dad too.

Am so tired.  Mum wants toast...not surprising after last night nothing left in her body. 

Sister off to her job after minimal sleep. ..

Consultant day today. 4.30pm meant to increase chemo. Usually runs two hours late so mum in chair cold and tired.  Mums choice to continue chemo. I probably wouldn't but I wonder if it prevents more pain. Got to tell them about fall and massive bruises.

I guess I have to buy everyone's Christmas present to everyone. Not in mood.

I'd like rubber gloves a plastic apron and some spray bleach...oh and two new buckets...

Hug.

Jx

Thanks maisiemae and Jenny.  It's weird, I really don't like upsetting people and don't like confrontation so usually go for the peacemaker option, but there's a detached part of me that is saying well you should feel bad because he's obviously not happy that you didn't sit with them but I don't feel bad at all. Normally that would play on my mind but I just don't care!

I don't peer round the door at mum but I do wonder each time I come through the front door.

Mum doesn't seem to be having any after effects from her fall.  No bruises, thank goodness.

She had a bad night again but quite bright today.  Made her sausage, mash and broccoli for lunch and she ate most of it.  She is now eating a chocolate chip cookie (I made them on Sunday) and enjoying it with her cuppa.  At least her appetite is good today.  :-)

Mum still won't use the commode, but glad it was there as she used it to pull herself up when she fell.  Came in handy for something then...

I was looking at the Christmas cards in the supermarket yesterday but, like you Jenny, not in the mood.  

Feel like I've completely waffled in this post and not really said anything that I wanted to day.  Off to make lemon biscuits now whilst waiting for the nurse to come.

Hope you're all ok.

Hugs to you all. X