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Elenium
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Sorry but I'm having a bad day and I just need to let it out.  I woke up feeling like I've had no sleep and really down.  Mum's been bad this week - a lot of pain and, I think, sliding into depression - so I'm in overdrive on worrying about her.  My sister is with her today so I don't need to go round to see mum although I probably will drop round later.  I thought I would throw myself into cleaning the house so make myself busy and then I'd start to feel better.  My fatal mistake was asking my 18 year old daughter to help.  She had a major strop.  I tried to keep calm as I realise that she is worrying about my mum too but it was hard.  I tried to talk to her but she just got worse and worse so I gave up.  Then my husband made sarcastic comments about it all - again he is worrying and his mum is also not well - so I am still trying to keep a lid on it.  But I feel even worse now.  I'm now sitting on the sofa in my pyjama's watching old episodes of Grey's Anatomy without the will to do anything else.  I just keep crying and feel so very very sad. 

  • in reply to FormerMember

    I should be able to make it.

    X

    Elenium

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Jenny Maisiemore will do - not sure what that word means though

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    I think she could/should. Have you asked yet?

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Just asked looks like it starts at 2pm.

    Can only come if she can cover as Dad dialysis then.


    He's talking about suicide again.


    Jx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Thanks Jenny I emailed them. (No response as yet). It would be lovely if your sister could and I can quite understand yr fathers wish to be with yr mother given his own health is quite poor it seems. Is his dialysis fixed times or could he come too? i support of course whatever you need to do, eleneium, marvellous if you can. Sue, if i can help let me know. anyone else? I might talk to Trinity and just let them know we may be going to get seats together. Which would be nice x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    I'll have a look at various modes of travel during the week & get back to you Maisiemae. I'm going to stay overnight on the 18th in Norwich then drive home on the 19th. 

    Jenny, your poor Dad. I wish there was someway I could help.

    Hugs 

    Sue xx

  • in reply to FormerMember

    Hello Jenny, sorry to hear your dad so sad, my MIL says she doesn't want to go on. Really really hard times for you still.

    Xx

    Take a deep breath ... then on with the day.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to Bobles2

    Yes fixed times 12-3.30 ish with some delays and sometimes a bit earlier finish on Tuesday Thursday and Saturday. 

    Sis said she wishes she could come too but that's too tricky. 


    She forgot about bunny delivery on Tuesday too and is cross with herself as booked a delivery of tools. 


    Poor Dad goes for hospital appointment tomorrow then dialysis Tuesday and another appointment Wednesday.   So hospital every day til Friday. 


    We try to help but are grieving too.  I snapped at him last week as I ran out of things to reassure with or even to talk about his feelings..he needs counselling hope hospice can help as renal psychologist said it's not her remit.

    Jx

  • in reply to FormerMember

    Hello everyone,

    Sorry I've not been posting much lately.  I'm applying for a new job (same company different department) and the application has taken a lot of time.  I feel like I need to move on and do something else.  Although everyone has been lovely, especially the management team letting me have all the time off I need, I just feel like i don't want to be there anymore as that was where I went through everything with mum.  I might not get the job and if I don't it won't be the end of the world but I just felt I had to try.

    Hope everyone is OK - as much as you can be.

    Jenny how's your dad?

    Hugs to all.

    X

    Elenium

  • in reply to Elenium

    Drove past mum's tonight on the way home from work and was completely overwhelmed by a longing to see her. I just want my mum.

    Elenium

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