Hello
My dad has been diagnosed with bowel cancer
I found out about march time altho had a feeling myself
Im finding every day a struggle to keep positive
I try to get him out in his wheelchair everyday but I get so sore pushing and feel frustrated by saying things like sit back a bit , dont hold on to a door when going past it as ull hurt urself or fall out
I feel very alone and isolated as have to hide when im taking phonecall as he says have people nothing better to do than sit on a phone
So im really struggling, find I cry a lot and feel I dont have any social life anymore
My friends are all going on hols , going out trips , or going out and its not possible for me
Ivw tried explaining this but get told I dont stop u but when I try arrange things my phone goes constantly , I have to cancel or I get told its terrible and I should be here all the time when I get back in so defeats the purpose of anything
Nobody seems to understand
Hi Eile
I wonder if it would help you both to look in to getting a needs assessment for your dad and a carers assessment for yourself - see the NHS website.
I remember some years ago watching people getting ready for Christmas and at the same time feeling so removed from it myself.
One thing I had to learn was how to look after myself it I was to be any real use to my wife. I ended up doing a living with less stress course that really helped me.
<<hugs>>
Steve
