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Hi MRSM, and welcome, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband, and the treatment he's been through, and what you are both going through, and I know from experience the physical costs of cancer treatments which can carry on well after treatment has stopped, but the body is amazing at healing itself and with help from his medical team, the support and love from his wonderful wife and yours husbands strength and resilience amazing things can happen.

Eddie xx

Hello Eddie,

Thank you so much for your lovely message, it's only three weeks since he finished his treatment, I guess we have a long road ahead of us, all the best, Melanie

Hi Melanie, you are welcome, and as you say,  3 weeks is no time,I have a friend on the head and neck forum, who is doing really well post treatment, just a little reconstructive surgery to complete, after the side effects of her treatment, 3 years of scans, and she can get on with her life, and just over a year after treatment finished and with her final operation to come, she looks amazing, my best wishes to you both.

Eddie xx 

My mum is still with me but I can't stop crying all the time. She has terminal lung cancer that has spr4qd éGetting depressed with dark thoughts. Feel nausea,.panic attacks, insomnia. 

So.scared and frightened of the future 

Hi Mumtothree, and welcome, though I'm so sorry to hear about your wonderful mum.I too cared for my mum, who also had terminal lung cancer and had 4 kids, 3 at home to look after as well,  and your feelings are one's I can relate to, it's awful knowing your mum may not have long, we were told at diagnosis 4 months, and I couldn't stop crying for days, which I soon realised was upsetting mum, event hough she never said,  I said to myself, enough, I'm going to make mums remaining time.the best it can be, and though mum couldn't leave the house, she moved in with us, I  like to think her time with my family was a happy time for her,  Mumtothree, my mum was my best friend as well, so I gave up work to care for her, and knowing she was well cared for and had her loved ones around her and she was happy, helped me with all the horrible thoughts you too are experiencing, I still often cried, but in private, I know it's difficult my friend, and losing your mum is a terrible thing, but try to make the best of the time you have together, it will help with all those dark thoughts, though it wasn't available to me, I would recommend counselling, Macmillan helpline will help, or if you have a local Maggies www.maggies.org they are wonderful as well, sending hugs.

love Eddie xx 

Good morning my first post was on brain tumour. My tumour has gone from terminal to inactive. My memory still lost for about twenty years and still walking with a stick and got permanent catheter. My x left me while in hospital having affair that didn’t work. We have spoken since and on good terms, I’ve got stronger live on my own, now the care has stopped because how well I was coping at home. So now it’s just me most days, other when kids come to see me with grandchildren. They do not live close and got thier own busy lives to live. It took about a year for me to process the tumour going from terminal to inactive. But now it’s feels like I am forgotten, no contact with hospitals and no care. I know I should be grateful for getting this far , sat here this morning thinking about what will day bring, windy raining so cannot walk around grounds. Like other posts this horrible disease robs you of so much. I cannot remember remember the name given to cancer. I know that other people our losing their loved ones, I will give it a good try to kick myself up the ass. Make a plan for my life journey part 2. 

Hi One2many.

I know you've been on the community a while, but  a warm welcome to the forum, and I am so sorry to read about what you have been/are going through, and would like to say, I think your doing a great job with moving on with life despite everything you have had to contend with. Having memory issues and a non-curable diagnosis, is tough, a situation I share and understand, as is valuing my independence, which is so important, and maybe why your care has been paused,  for you to keep yours.

I think it would be strange if we didn't have down days, with everything going on in our lives and thankfully, like you I have a wonderful family to help me through the down days and refuse to give in to this horrible disease, best wishes with part 2.

Eddi