I have cancer of the pancreas with secondaries on liver and lung. It looks like it terminal. My husband is in bits (we have no kids). I am at a loss how to help him cope with this.
Hi JennyO and warm welcome to the Macmillan Online Community but sorry that you had to find us and especially sorry to hear about your diagnosis.
A cancer diagnosis like this in the family can be challenging in so many ways. For you talking with others who are walking the same type of cancer journey will help you navigate this difficult time.
The Community is organised into support groups so can I recommend you join our supportive
Living with incurable cancer - incurable patients only
groups, these will be a good places to connect with patients and families navigating the same type of cancer journey.
To join a group just click on the link above then choose 'click to join' or 'join' (depending on the device you're using) on the page that opens.
You can then introduce yourself by putting up a ‘New Thread’ or hit the box with the X on the top right (phones), you could just copy and paste the text from this your first post. You can also join in with existing ‘Discussions’ by clicking on 'reply'.
Talking to people face to face can indeed help both you and your husband a lot, but during these strange times it’s not that available but do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area has opened up or a Maggie’s Centre as these folks are amazing and a lot of these services have moved onto online video support groups. Our local Maggie’s (Inverness) are rather non g some great support groups online at the moment.
It’s always good to talk so do call the Macmillan Support Services on 0808 808 00 00 - most services are open 8am to 8pm, 7 days a week Clicking here to see what is available. This service can give lots of information, support, financial guidance or just a listening ear. We also have our Ask an Expert section, but do allow two working days for replies from our expert team.
All the very best ((hugs))
