Hi my partner was diagnosed with stage 4 oesophageal cancer with secondary tumours and bone mets in November. He started chemotherapy in December has been authorised 8 cycles which are 3 weekly. 1st two went pretty much without a hitch, 3rd he felt quite unwell throughout and the 4th unfortunately he because jaundiced with his liver function being poor and struggling. His appetite and fluid intake at times is really low; I have tried so many things to encourage him however I am getting to the end of my tether. I love him dearly and hate to see him going through this however I am breaking too. I am trying to carry on working however I have come home today to him hardly having eaten or drank anything. I have told him if he doesn’t he will be dehydrated again and end up poorly and possibly in hospital which neither of us wants. He did start his 5th cycle last week after an extra week off to give him time to recover. I am so worried as I can’t be here all the time, it is just the two of us and really don’t want to give up work. He said he will try however he feels so full from the chemo tablets and says he constantly feels crap. I really don’t know what else to do.
Hi Cuff
I'm sorry to read how poorly your partner was after his last chemotherapy and also how you're being affected by his diagnosis.
I can see that you're a member of the oesophageal cancer group and I hope you don't mind me suggesting that you also post this there as you'll connect directly with others who will have had the same chemo as your partner and may have had the same problems.
Another group which I think you'd benefit from joining is the carers only group, which is a safe and supportive place to discuss your worries and emotions with others who have a loved one living with cancer.
If this is something that you'd like to do, clicking on the link I've created will take you straight there. Once you've joined you can then start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
When you have a moment, it would be great if you could pop something about your partner's diagnosis and treatment so far into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
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