Feeling Overwhelmed

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My Dad was recently diagnosed with Bowel cancer which spread to his liver. From initial doctor's appointment for irregular bowel movements to being diagnosed with no treatment suitable it has been 5 weeks. 

He would like to spend his remaining time at home so my brother (33) and I (35) are caring for him at home ourselves. My brother lives with him (just the 2 of them) and I live close by. We have been told we do not have long and he is already unable to eat, barely awake and has severley deteriorated quickly. 

We have only had 5 weeks from thinking he had an ulcer to end of life and I am trying not to feel overwhelmed. I am so unsure of what to expect, how I can support my brother and what will happen when the time comes. 

Just looking for reassurance or any helpful tips I guess, it is so much to take in and I don't have time on our side. 

  • I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. You haven't had very long to process or come to terms with his diagnosis and what is happening. You are bound to be feeling overwhelmed, especially as you are caring for him with your brother. Self care is really important, try to carve out some time to do something you enjoy and take one step at a time, a day at a time, rather than thinking too far ahead. My daughter has a terminal diagnosis and I understand very much the feelings of overwhelm. I have found getting out in nature to be helpful, going for walks or getting outside if you have the chance, or doing something creative like drawing or painting, if you like that sort of thing. Talking and reaching out always helps too. There is a carers forum on here, where you may find some support also. I found talking to my GP helped immensely. Sending you strength and thoughts.