Feeling Overwhelmed

I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. You haven't had very long to process or come to terms with his diagnosis and what is happening. You are bound to be feeling overwhelmed, especially as you are caring for him with your brother. Self care is really important, try to carve out some time to do something you enjoy and take one step at a time, a day at a time, rather than thinking too far ahead. My daughter has a terminal diagnosis and I understand very much the feelings of overwhelm. I have found getting out in nature to be helpful, going for walks or getting outside if you have the chance, or doing something creative like drawing or painting, if you like that sort of thing. Talking and reaching out always helps too. There is a carers forum on here, where you may find some support also. I found talking to my GP helped immensely. Sending you strength and thoughts. 

I’m so sorry  you are in this position. It is really such a shock and so overwhelming.

I lost my Dad 9 years ago to lung cancer, he also had short time left after diagnosis. I would say what helped me was talking to my family to try and process collectively. Also, trying to stay present, for myself and for my Dad. This really helped me to be there for him each moment, without thinking too much about the future.

I think it is so much to process and come to terms with, so is very difficult. Look after yourself and get support wherever you can. Be kind to yourself.

I wish you all love and strength.

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply, I underestimated how supportive and less lonely it would feel. 

As Dad has continue to get progressively more poorly and so quickly, my brother and I have made the decision to try our local hospice. We feel so guilty that he probably would have preferred to be at home but we cannot get much out of him now and as we are needing so much out of hours help it just makes more sense for his comfort and safety. I'm hoping he will understand that we are trying to do the best for him as well as making sure neither of us 'go under' in the process.