Hi all, hoping for some helpful advice
My partner (we don't live together) was diagnosed with breast cancer last year, had a mastectomy, just had the last session of chemo 3 weeks ago. I supported all the way through as best I could, was there whenever needed, but have heard nothing for a week now.
Last message was "I've just got a lot on. Sorry xxx" I responded saying I understood and am here when needed. I reached out yesterday by message just to let her know I was thinking about her but didn't expect a reply and would wait to hear from her. She lives with her 2 young adult children,, so I know they will be supporting.
Its maybe selfish of me but I'm just feeling lost and hopeless, useless and worried. I'm just struggling with it. I know I shouldn't be as I'm not going through anything like she is, but I just can't help it. I've no support for me and don't know what to do.
Hi Jasfor
Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.
Sorry to hear about what you are going through, that feeling of being selfish is one that comes up quite freqently on the carers forum. When I look at your feelings when someone has cancer I know there are many things I recognize that happened to me. My first step in reaching out was when I walked in to our local Maggies but also had lots of support since I joined on here.
You talk about her having two young adult children, I wonder if one of them might be willing to take on the role of helpling keep you or others who might be around in the loop, this can sometimes give them a sense of helping as well as taking some of the load.
I also did a living with less stress course that really helped me.
<<hugs>>
Steve
