Hi all,
My husband has been diagnosed with terminal kidney cancer that has spread to lungs
its a new diagnosis since 20 Jan 2026. And was a huge shock
He has started immune therapy pills and intravenous every fortnight for 12 weeks then once a month.. I know it’s very hard for him and he has my sympathy.. He has had cancer 3 times before starting when he was 24 then again at 26 and finally at 28 then cancer free uptill now age 69
im really struggling with everything right now and really don’t know what to do.. since diagnosis things have gone downhill and he doesn’t seem to want to venture out anywhere which I’m finding hard.
he’s always been by my side for 47 years and not having that is very hard for me. I feel I’m a prisoner in my own home now and just getting up eating and going back to bed
i I don’t want to sound selfish but I think he should get out for fresh air and a bit of a break from sitting in a chair in the same room however he’s breathing is now awful but not sure it’s just down to the lungs
thanks for listening 
Hi Dolly11and a warm welcome to the Macmillan Community but so sorry to hear about your husband.
A cancer diagnosis in the family like this can be such a challenging and stressful time but getting support from others who are dealing with the ‘exact same' support challenges can help you a lot.
The Community is actually divided into dedicated Support Groups (Discussion Rooms) and when it comes to the practical and emotional challenges of supporting your husband and indeed yourself you may benefit from joining and posting in our general cancer……
Supporting someone with incurable cancer
……. support groups where you will connect with a wide range of members navigating the exact same support challenges.
It is an emotional time supporting family so you might find this Macmillan information your feelings when someone has cancer helpful as well as this link getting help with your emotions.
The Macmillan Support Line is open between 8am-8pm (timings may differ across services) 7 days a week on 0808 808 00 00…… this service provides cancer information, practical information, emotional support, benefits/financial guidance or just a listening ear.
Talking to people ‘face to face’ can be very helpful so do check to see if you have any Local Macmillan Support in your area, do also check for a local Maggie's Centre as these folks are amazing.
((hugs))
I don’t have the permission to do this but I can ask the Macmillan Community Team to do it for you but it may not happen until tomorrow
Ok thanks 
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If you hit this link….. Carers only you will see your post is now in the group ((hugs))
If you look to the top of the page you will see that the post is actually now in the carers group
