Caring for my husband

Hi Patience 

Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.

That sounds really difficult, I wonder if your husband can get some support for the pain as perhaps that might help some. Do remember that the helpline here is open 8am to 8pm every day if you need to talk.

<<hugs>>

Steve

Thanks for your advice hes has talked to St Peters Hospice about his pain as we found oncology and gp difficult to contact  they have given us some very good advice re pain relief and have been in contact with gp to issue prescriptions  for morphine and some patches He is due to start chemo soon and i think the anticipation of that is. Making his mood worse .he has been better today also think the hormone he taking is contributing to the mood swings.

Sometimes it's easier to express anger and nastiness than fear and upset.....someone once said hear what the person's saying not how they're saying it.

Hope you're husband gets pain relief that's helps .

Hi Patience,

you and your husband have had hugely traumatic news. Feelings and thoughts are likely to be all over the place. I hope St. Peters hospice can help, maybe offer some psychological support as well as advice on medication. Pain is so difficult to manage. Please do talk to your husband’s GP if the morphine isn’t working. It can cause constipation. There are lots of pain meds out there..it is a bit of trial and error to see which ones work best for anyone person. 
in addition to the pain, you have both been thrown into a whole new world where nothing makes sense and our immortality has snacked you both in the face. The hospice will be able to support you as well as your husband. You have to be strong enough to ask for help…someone to talk to. Keep chatting on here too. These people are so aware of what each of us are dealing with and the challenges each day bring. Sending hugs. 

Thanks for tour kind words teatowel yes st peters hospice have been very helpful to both of us theres good days and bad days he begins chemo treatment on tuesday so lets hope that helps although i know that will being its own challenges