Really worried about husband - Sickness following treatment

Thank you for your reply. I noted that you had learned not to pester and I will take this advice as keep nagging makes us both anxious and I get very tearful. It helps to know that I am not alone. I.m sorry for your own diagnosis too which must make everything much harder for you.

Hi there 

I can totally empathise with you on this. My husband struggles to eat now after chemo treatment - usually days 4-8, it might only be 1 very small meal, soup or a biscuit if lucky a crumpet! He tends to then lose weight so we have a battle to fatten him up when it’s his good days. 

Definitely worth speaking to nurses about alternative sickness drugs, when hubby was on the full gammet of chemo/immuno at the beginning the only thing that worked was a 5 day drug he took on the day of treatment administered by the cancer nurses. That helped him feel more comfortable. 

I agree with the other lady about being patient and learning not to nag, I’m a problem solver and it’s difficult when I can’t find the solution and have learned to accept that it’s ok if he doesn’t eat as long as he stays hydrated. I also found that he listened to the nutritionist we were offered by MacMillan in terms of helping himself.

I think stubbornness is probably to be expected as the news is still very new and I know my hubby was processing a lot internally, we both were and it’s been an adjustment to face the realities of the future. It’ll take a while to develop new habits/routines for the better of both you. 

Always call the experts, they are so supportive and helpful. Our journey now compared to the beginning is quite different. Much calmer and easier to handle.

We didn't know at the time but he was adversely reacting to the immunotherapy, so I practically had a batphone to SDEC at the beginning because I didn’t know if what was happening was normal! And to be honest I’m not sure there is a normal! 

Wishing you and your husband well as you navigate this new path! Take care