Went by like a blur

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Hello, I'm taking a big breath and saying hi after what has been a fairly full on four months. Went from my wife having a "niggly goitre" to two rounds of surgery to get the thyroid out completely, an exposed internal suture, finally clear CT scans and now we're waiting on radio isotope treatment. Hit me for six, and I've been having to handle treatment for the anxiety this brought on in me in paralllel to getting her to and from various consulting and scan sessions.

I feel a little like I've gotten off lightly when I read some of the other introductions on here, and it brings back memories of my late mother's six month battle with cancer which ended unsuccessfully twenty years ago. 

I have nothing but respect for every one of you. Let's hope '26 is a better year!

  • Hi  

    Welcome to our community, I hope you find it both informative and supportive.

    You are right that there are a range of expereinces here but I think in some sense that adds power to our community. Just the word cancer is enough to scare people and I think it really helps to know there are others out there. When I talked about cancer a work there were a number of staff who talked to me who had not opened up to anyone else. Something I quite like is the lyrics

    Lean on me, when you're not strong
    And I'll be your friend
    I'll help you carry on
    For it won't be long
    'Til I'm gonna need
    Somebody to lean on

    <<hugs>>

    Steve

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  • It’s been interesting to see who has come forward to speak to me versus some who now avoid me like the proverbial plague!

  • Hi tullybardofa4748Im sorry to read about your chaalenges with your wife. Caring for your spouse is hard, physically and emotionally. Plus you have this rollercoaster ride to deal with on top.

    sadly my caring journey ended with my husbands death in October, bit I still reel from what we both went through at the time. 

    We are a pretty decent bunch around here, so jyst come along and chat. Sometimes you just want to get it out there.

    Do you have support in your caring role? 

  • Sincere sympathies Malengwa, I've been building my own support network through a lot of sleepless nights and phone conversations. My wife is on her feet if somewhat unsteady, and we have more therapy to go yet, and I'm getting good at handling housework plus day job, and a key skill of postponing what's not important!