Husband had his first chemo yesterday (ABVD for cHL) and is surprisingly well. He’s stayed in as at risk of tumour lysis syndrome, which I’m glad about as I was really scared of having to monitor him at home!
Unfortunately I have woken this morning with an itchy throat and slight stuffiness. I will be obviously keeping my distance and wearing a mask when he comes home, but it’s just hit me how hard this is going to be. I can’t avoid people, my daughter dances so we spend a lot of time in enclosed environments. I feel like I now am the person who is going to be putting him at risk, and that’s a huge pressure. Is it possible to lead a semi normal life while a family member you live with is having chemo?!
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When Janice was having chemotherapy we still lived as normally as we could but then we had a young son in primary school at the time and that of course is known as something of a fairly common pool of infection.
With our local hospital we were given a hotline number to the cancer ward and were advised to keep a close eye on her temperature. She did have a couple of times she tripped up with a bit of a fever and then the hospital would admit her for intravenous antibiotics and once her temperature was back to normal then she could come home again.
Still when we visit the hospital now there seem remarkably few people wearing and kind of mask and again that tends to be a quite enclosed environment too.
Hope you are keeping ok, it can be really difficult for us too.
<<hugs>>
Steve
Hi Steve
Thanks so much for your reply! It’s really good to hear how you got through it. I picked my other half up to bring him home yesterday,, and I was one of the few wearing a mask even on the chemo ward. We just need to find a new normal I suppose, I don’t want him to become a recluse and he’s already not wanting to leave the house. I also don’t want to be the one who makes home really poorly.
School have been brilliant, although in a building with a thousand other students it’s high risk. She can take her own hand wash/sanitiser and ask to sit away from people who she feels are infectious. Not a guarantee but reducing the risk of bringing something home.
I guess over time we will become less paranoid, but I know it’s going to be a long and winding road!
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