Watching man you have loved personality change and cancer destroy your relationship

I am experiencing similar, although my husband’s prognosis is good so far. He is struggling with his mental health and has pushed me, family and friends away. All he does is watch Tv and sleep. He said he hates me. It’s just devastating. I miss him, I miss us. 
I’m sorry I don’t have any solutions but you’re not alone, which is probably no help at all. I hope you get some good times with him soon. 

This seems to be a reoccurring  theme. My partner has pushed me so far away, I really think if he wasn't  so ill, I'd leave  him. Today he's  told me he won't  come to mine as it doesn't  feel like home. I've  offered to pick him up but he's  made it perfectly  clear he doesn't  want to be with me here. That upset me today and I find it really rude to say what he did. His time is spent on either on the tv, 12+ hours a day  or the on PC. He doesn't  go out  and I think this  is affecting  his metal health. I don't  know what to do anymore 

I’m so sorry. That is really hurtful. I hope that you are able to be kind to yourself, as it is nothing you’ve done but rather this disease that is causing him to behave that way. I hope you can find peace. 

Ronella, I am so sorry to hear what you are going through, and the same with the other contributors below.  We haven't begun the treatment yet, but my husband does struggle anyway with his mental health and can be very difficult to live with; I have to say that I have been worrying about how he's going to cope with the treatment and how his fears and frustrations might be taken out on me.

Think the only thing we can do is share our experiences, I think it's pretty clear none of us are isolated cases.  Men can push their emotions to the back and go into their caves.  I have never really known what the right thing was to do when that happens. I think over time I have learned to allow the space and not try to fix things.  Trouble is when you are dealing with someone who is in need of practical support, such as regular medication, exercises, diet and you're the one reminding them of what they have to do, it's quite possible they'll lose it with you, and you're only there to help them recover or feel better.

Do you have anyone else to turn to for hugs and reassurance.  It's not the same as a loving embrace from your husband/partner but sounds like you could do with a friend's shoulder to cry on.  Don't be afraid to do that.  Better release those sad feelings and get your needs met.  You can only do what you can do, don't carry any guilt.  

Take care xxx

Thankyou for your kind responses. We are struggling with his ascites progressing  but talking with macmillan has helped face the inenvitable