Dad died this afternoon

Hi there, it is shocking, isn’t it. You know it is coming, but you are never ready. I really feel for you all. My husband’s circumstances were so similar. He passed on the 4th August in a St Barnabas Hospice. He was only there for three nights. I had popped home to have a shower, and cook a meal for our adult children. My plan was to go back afterwards. We had the phone call, to say he had gone. I also felt that sense of disbelief. I think you are right in saying that he wanted to spare you all. He wanted to protect us. Sending you kind thoughts. Kate. 

I'm so sorry for your loss too, Kate. It feels so unfair and cruel. Dad had been in the hospice three nights as well. He had been in previously, in August, for symptom control,  but really rallied and was home for another few weeks before returning to the hospice on Thursday.  

He went on the same day of the week ( Sunday) and similar time of day as my mum, 31 years earlier. That's why I'm sure he had a hand in it himself. 

I hope you are getting on as well as can be expected.  It feels strange that everything around me is still the same as it was, except dad's not here. I was just tidying and picked up a newspaper from Saturday.  I just kept thinking,  when we bought the paper, dad was still alive, and it set me off again.  I know it's going to happen a lot

Hi there, the truth is, it is very difficult to explain the range of emotions. I am nine weeks in. At times it feels surreal, other times the pain is indescribable. We have also had flashbacks and nightmares over the previous nine weeks. Unfortunately, my husband was diagnosed in March and gone by early August. I did lots of research on grief, to try and support our adult children. Apparently, trying to suppress it, makes it even worse. We talk a lot about Dad, and I talk to Dad everyday. The Cruse Bereavement website was very helpful. Luckily, I have a strong friendship group. No one can take away the pure love you felt for your Dad. Sending hugs and strength, Kate.