I’m really finding this hard! My husband was formally diagnosed with SCLC two weeks ago. Was due to start chemo and immunotherapy last week but ended up calling an ambulance on Tuesday morning and he was admitted to ICU with severe pneumonia and septic shock.He improved and has moved to another ward but yesterday became distressed with chest pain. My heart went into panic, I had to leave and go to my parents as my heart was racing and couldn’t calm it down. It took an hour and a half.
this is the second time going through this as I lost my first husband to cancer when I was 34, I’m now 45. My son was only a year old then and now 12. He’s been incredible but said to me he understands why I struggle and that I probably have PTSD after his Dad and my Mum also having an awful time after a failed stent op in November.
I don’t know how to be strong for my husband. I can’t even go into the hospital now without my heart racing, sweating and getting clammy. I have diazepam from the doctor but it’s not helping and I’m already on 20mg citalopram. Please let me know if you can think of anything else to help. At the moment it’s only my amazing son and MIL who visit every day. I had to take a day off today as was so scared of the racing heart again.
i know this sounds selfish and my husband is the one going through it and the rest of the family are managing but i really need to find a way to help myself to be able to support my husband.
Hi MrsVH
I have often seen people on here talk about sounding selfish but you talk such a lot of sense when you say "I need to find a way to help myself to be able to support my husband".
I wonder if it might help you to talk to someone. I know how much better I feel after taking to people at my local Maggies although other support groups are available many of which are listed on the main site here
Our son's school has been so helpful in all our dealings with cancer.
<<hugs>>
Steve
