My Mum won’t leave the house, any advice?

My mum has stage 4 breast cancer now spread to liver bones and lungs.  With onset dementia I'm struggling. She can still get about.  She's so independent doesn't need help etc....

Hi Weliveinhope I’m so sorry you and your Mum are going through this. My sister is in a similar position with her advanced cancer. I’ve watched her go from a fit, active, bubbly young woman to almost a recluse in a few short months, mostly due to her cancer progressing and news getting harder to take.  I was with her tonight and she told me her counsellor, who she’s only chatted to on the phone once, has said she has to take tiny steps. It might be texting a friend one week, working towards having them for a coffee or chatting for five minutes on the phone. Each time she achieves something tiny it will release endorphins that give her the feel good feelings she’s been missing so long, I’m hoping this works and she manages to enjoy life a little again. I really hope your Mum starts to feel that too. I think the hard bit for us as carers is accepting they will never be exactly the person they were again and they probably won’t enjoy the same things they did. But I do believe my sister can find things that make her happy again and I’m hoping she gets to that point soon. Take care x