Post radiotherapy malaise

Brilliant well done keep in touch darling always here if you need me and thank you for replying it's nice to have a friend suffering the same as me gives me the feeling I'm not on my own xxxxx

Hi, I have just joined here to find some sort of support and reading your comments in this thread has made me feel so much better. 
My husband has also just finished 6 weeks of radiotherapy for throat cancer following the full laryngectomy he had in January of this year. After his surgery he recovered so quickly and was so driven and determined, so I expected the same following radiotherapy, silly me.
He is a completely different man, exactly as you guys have described, not engaging in life in any way, no affection at all, no fight or drive to get better. I too am feeding him through a tube and managing his pain medication whilst working and looking after our four children, I’m totally exhausted but there’s no other option. I lost it with him this morning as it feels like he’s making no attempt to “help himself” and I then felt awful afterwards. All I’m asking is that he sorts his own meds or rests when he needs to but he seems to be fighting all the things he shouldn’t be fighting and none of the things he should. He doesn’t listen to nurses advice and guidance and is then grumpy with me when he feels rough. I am at my wits end and just don’t know where to turn. 

Hi darling, you will have your hands full for a few weeks yet. .not easy I know don't give up he will improve slowly, in alot of pain at the moment, more than you could invisage,not going to bounce back from this straight away I know,be nice to him take his bad moods and be strong only into my 4th week of post radiotherapy with my husband and showing signs of improvement it's a slow process. But be strong xxxxx

Hi Kerry 

Sorry for late reply. Please don't give up hope. After writing my post within a week my hubby started to feel better and I could see a light at the end of the tunnel. We actually went out to a Bike  show and gecwas in good spirits. He removed his own NG tube and has started to eat a little more. Now today one week on, He's feeling poorly again and is asleep again after 12 hours last night. I've slept on the settee a few times as his snoring keeps me awake. 

I think we have to accept that it's going to be a roller coaster but with each passing week there is a slight improvement. 

I know it's tough and believe me i still get pissed off with his attitude sometimes. I hope at tge time of writing this he is staring to feel.a little better. 

Easier said than done with four children, but try to make time for yourself. A bath a glass of wine or some favourite TV show all three if you can . Take care lots of love xxx

So well said...yes we're in this together ️ we can deal with this ladies...time for my bath and a glass of wine