My husband was diagnosed with bowel cancer last January through the routine tests that come through the post. He had no symptoms and was operated on last March to remove the affected part of the bowel. He recovered well and they thought all was well but in August his 3 monthly bloods threw up a problem. Cut to a few months later and it was discovered he had 4 liver mets. He’s just had his last chemo and we’re waiting on the results to see if he’ll need surgery. Since starting chemo his mood has been awful, snappy, and agitated, doesn't want to be asked how he is and whilst I understand this I’m finding it really hard. I thought we’d be going through it supporting each other not snapping at each other
Hi Karen Y
On the positive side being picked up by the screening program is a good thing but treatment can be a real challenge and the ups and downs of treatment and the feeling of it's over but then it isn't can be difficult for everyone.
Looking at your feelings when someone has cancer I know I recognize a lot of what I went through and I recognize the power that talking to others who understand how it feels to be in the carer role can give.
I ended up doing a living with less stress course and it really helped me. I was probably suffering a lot from anticipatory grief and that was not helping me or Janice. Life of course still likes to throw us the occasional curve ball and the conscious breathing I learnt was great for being able to step back and plan rather that being overwhelmed.
<<hugs>>
Steve
