Hi everyone, I’m new to these forums. 2 days ago my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 stomach cancer, we are devastated. He has been so strong and is pretty much said he is going to live each day as best he can - he is very practical in that sense. I on the other hand get teary at the slightest thought of losing him. We have told our children that he is very ill and I’m trying very hard to be strong but it’s not working. He has told me I need to be more positive for our children’s sake so I’m holding a lot in, but I can’t breath. I’m exhausted from not sleeping and over thinking and worrying about him. He can’t eat much as he has so much pain afterwards and I haven’t been eating in front of him either as I feel guilty.
i fee lost and hopeless
Hi
Welcome to our community, though sorry to hear about your husband and the impact it is having on you and your family. I think many on here will recognize the position you find yourself in at the moment. Not sleeping rapidly impacts our own health and that really does not help anyone so it might help to have a chat with your GP about how you are feeling.
You may find out guide to talking to children and teenagers helpful, they are almost certain to pick up on issues and can easily imagine things much worse. If they are at school it can be helpful to share there too as then all their trusted adults are giving the same information.
It is difficult, especially so in the early days but hopefully you can take something from knowing there are others out there in the same position and can follow the lead of taking things as they come because really nobody really knows what comes next.
<<hugs>>
Steve
